How do we Let Go?

Sometimes in our lives there are decisions, events or people we just don’t seem to be able to let go of. We mull over a past decision or keep feeling the pain and grief of a lost moment or path we chose. We may keep disliking or hating someone for something they did. If you decide you do want to let go of something there are several ways to reframe, that means look at this from a different perspective.

Being able to forgive can be useful, (this doesn’t mean forgetting), and this may not be easy. Forgiving can often mean yourself! Stop beating yourself up for what happened! Reframe by saying we make the best decisions at that point in time, with the experience & information available.

Could you believe that there is no such thing as failure only an experience to learn from?

Write down these questions and ponder the answer:

• What did this experience bring you?
• What did this relationship give you?
• What opportunities opened up because you did make that choice?
• And the biggy what are you gaining by hanging on to this?
• Or how are you damaging yourself or others by holding on to it?

The final reframing is a spiritual interpretation. That everything happens in just the perfect way, perfect timing, and perfect experience. That it is all just meant to be. And some final questions:

• do you want to learn through these experiences and move on?
• Or keep hanging on to what could’ve been?
• What will you prevent from happening if you don’t move on?

Remember it is our choice about how we live today and tomorrow or if we continue to live in the past.

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