1. Deal to the past
If you still have some old baggage left over from previous
relationships now is the time to deal with it. What’s
the point of hanging on to old stuff that won’t serve
you and in fact will limit your availability to a potential
relationship? Baggage could be defined as resentment, blame
or still feeling hurt and angry sometime after a relationship
has ended.
2. Define your best places
to meet people
Make a list of the places you could go to meet people. Here
are some options:
- Internet dating
- Pubs and Clubs
- Singles groups
- Join clubs or organisations that interest you eg tennis
club, political party, running club.
- Ask friends “do you know of anyone?” -
I have proof it works!!
3. Check your Beliefs
Do you have any beliefs hindering your success? The common
one I hear is “there aren’t many men/women out
there” Well my reply to that is that if you believe
it, it will be so! Reframe any beliefs that don’t
serve you. For instance “I will find people to date
and have fun doing it”. Check your self esteem do
you really believe you are worthy of that someone special
or is there a wee voice saying “your not good enough”?
4. Plan
Create a plan of action of the steps you will take to create
this special someone in your life. Just like anything else
you want to create in your life. This doesn’t mean
your desperate just considered.
5. Just Do it
Act on your plan. Get out there and practice. You will meet
all kinds of people some you like and some you won’t
but you know it only takes one!
If you would like to join a singles group contact The Group
at www.thegroup.co.nz. This company does all sorts of events
and activities for single people of all ages.
Good luck and most importantly have fun.
