Yes, I get stuck too! A personal share.

I've had an enormous epiphany recently, and I'm sooooo excited!

So, I offer no apologies for this lengthy blog, but hopefully, with an understanding of my process, you will gain insight into your own, and at the end, I have a couple of challenging questions for you.

What's below the surface

For a while, I've felt a bit stuck generally. Not being able to quite work out what this stuckness was about. Yes, even a life coach gets stuck!

As you might know, over the past year, I've pushed through my fear of performing on stage and found my tribe in musical theatre.

But there was something else that was gnawing at me, just under the surface, something I wanted and needed to do that would bring me great fulfilment. But I couldn't quite grasp it and get clear on what it was. I wanted to let it go to the universe to show me the way at the right time, but that was hard!

And finally, it revealed itself as I talked to a friend recently, and then it all came out, and I was quite emotional.

Black-and-white thinking

I finally allowed myself to realise I wanted to paint!

I've always been interested in art, having bought a few pieces and taken a couple of courses over the years, but I never really got involved with it.

Why?

Well, that isn't very easy to answer. I could say fear. But I think that's only some of it.

It's about a few things. Firstly, I was brought up in a practical farming environment where art wasn't part of the landscape. I also lacked the confidence to understand what I love and who I am, relating to my childhood experiences.

Another aspect is that I thought I had to stop my coaching work. That it, (before I knew what it was) meant I couldn't do both, but when I finally admitted what I wanted to do, I realised I could still coach and be an artist.

When the time is right

I did have some regrets after this epiphany. I could have been an artist by now, and it's a shame I've waited so long.

But I'm a great believer that when the time is right, all will be revealed. I wasn't ready until now to explore this part of myself.

Yes, fear got in the way, but the resistance was so subtle, and I'm not sure I could have done anything about that any sooner.

I want to accept and focus on the now, and I get to relish learning something new.

Oh, and by the way, I have no idea how to draw or create a half-decent painting, so I'm literally starting from scratch. I've no idea where I'll end up with this, but I do have a dream to be good at it! I'm holding the fear and excitement.

That quiet voice within us

Fear often has a very quiet voice and usually comes with feelings we don't want to experience. Feelings such as shame, overwhelm and self-doubt.

I have two questions for you today:

What areas in your life have you been too afraid of failure?

What has that fear prevented you from accomplishing?

To answer these, I want you to really listen to that very quiet voice. What is it calling you to do? If you listened, what would it say to you? Notice any emotion that comes up with this, which will tell you that you have struck something important.

If you would like to chat about your fears, want to create a bigger life than you have or find those things you genuinely love, then book my 15-minute free chat to see if we can find a breakthrough.

Or download Where Do I Begin? A Self-Assessment for Women in their 40s & 50s who are ready for change but don't know where to start. It's a great way to become unstuck.